Part 2: Bonding Through Wellness. Whoda thunk it of a repenting, elitist fashionista.

So why the Parts 1 and beyond… Isn’t it just a Mother’s Day workshop? Yes it is, however to me, it means a tad more… For those of you who maybe interested in the why’s and how’s, here’s some what’s so and some background…

I’m not a yoga instructor, I’m just a regular yoga class consumer, who wants those in my life who matter to experience the simple and effective tools of body awareness that a regular yoga practice provides, so that they  can feel, connect and make the corrective choices, that enhances their overall wellbeing, whatever their current condition.

My mother lives in Brunei, I, Boston, Ma. She suffers from rheumatoid arthritis and lower back issues and when I check in with her, “she’s yeah, OK, my this… my that… but it is what it is with my age. The doc gave me some meds, it helps X… but I can’t take it for too long, cos it does Y…” I was pretty helpless on the phone, I would suggest yoga and I could feel it land on deaf ears. We’d continue the conversation with chit chat and by the time I got off the call, I would feel saddened that I couldn’t be with her, to take her to a yoga class. What I wanted her experience, was that within her own body, she could feel how a simple piece of body awareness can improve her way of being. With chronic pain there is a heaviness and resignation that comes through the wires, no matter what going ons are happening in her life. For me, sharing about what’s going on with kids or with Plank, I now recognise, as I type, that I was stilted because, in the back of my mind I’m trying to think of how to help her and talking about the other stuff, didn’t feel important. I also recognise, as I type now, that maybe talking about the stuff, is sometimes all she needs. Anyway this been the pattern of our telephone calls…

Mother’s Day is 12 hours ahead of Boston, in Brunei, so last night I called to wish her Happy Mother’s Day and to let her know her gift is on its way. Her other knee is now swollen, due her rheumatism and when she woke, her back had started up again. For Mother’s Day, she’s going to stay at home, relax and hope the pain will go away. My heart sinks, as it does anytime I hear a friend, for or random stranger can not enjoy life fully, if at all, when impacted by pain. Through what I have absorbed in my various yoga classes and styles, particularly Iyengar Yoga, and also through life coaching, which revealed to me what and who mattered, after a few stilted exchanges, I knew that talking about the small stuff is not going to make a difference to either of us. Yes it could have had a pleasant 1 hour chat, this would have been the least confrontational route, but when I get off the phone, then what?

I knew I could make a difference, if I wanted to, but I’d have to be committed that she got what I wanted her to experience and she got it in a way that she would be able to apply it herself. So I ask her if she’s sitting and she says  “ Of course, what else am I going to do today?” This line would normally have stopped me, however, I talk her through experiencing the difference a simple pelvis tuck can do to support + improve the sensations around her lower back. As we go through a variety of scenarios and life situations, I know that this is the best Mother’s Day gift I could give my mother this day, the gift of wellbeing…

Maybe one day she’ll take up yoga and if she does I’ll send her one of my mats, if she doesn’t, at least I know that when she’s on our call her lower spine isn’t compacted and for an hour or so, she is able to feel some freedom and ease, which creates space for our conversation and connectedness to grow…

So the Mat + Mom + Me workshop is what I’m doing to make a difference to all mothers and their families, I hope it helps somewhat and if you’re interested in bonding through wellbeing with those you love, I demand that you REGISTER NOW, pwetty please…

What are you committed to taking on, when considering the physical health and wellbeing of those who matter to you…

TWHG, an audacious expert in all things, shoes + heels + fitting yoga into a busy lifestyle…


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